A bit of calm

Funny how ones views change over time. I would never of thought my wife allow our 15-almost 16 year old ‘date’ till she was at least 18.

This past weekend the mood of the house was transformed from anger to one of acceptance and friendship. Susan and Dylan had a heart to heart after we came home from work on Friday. Susan now knows she doesn’t have a ‘little girl’ and that Dylan want to be involved in what’s going on with her surgery decisions. Dylan had to re-learn that her mom wants what is best for her and wants to protect her. Just because Susan will not be working anymore doesn’t mean that we can’t make ends meet.

That was Dylan’s biggest fear—that we would be hurting financially because of her. She didn’t want to be a bigger burden. Sure we will have a large financial hit… but we just have to trust in God that it will turn out OK.

With the weekend going OK I took Dylan out to a few yard sales to try to find some used speakers. It was time for her to not have to watch TV to listen to music. She was listening to her DVD player as a CD player thru the TV. I cleaned out my closet downstairs and found my receiver and gave it to her.

After not getting a call from her ‘boyfriend’ all weekend, Dylan was depressed - by regular teenager stuff.

My brother, Stan gave me a call and asked Dylan to come over to my parents house. It seems he and his wife as well as my parents went in together and bought her a laptop. This will be her ‘escape ‘ when in hospital. A DVD player, a internet connection and a way to listen to music. Dylan was thrilled and excited. ( On a side note, this would have been Stan’s daughter’s ,Samantha, 17^th birthday. She died of cancer 5 years ago.)

On the way back home- Susan called and said that her boyfriend had called and that they where going to the Drive-in that night.

Susan took them and said that they had fun and Dylan was happy. So my wife who was very strongly against Dylan dating has seen that her daughter needs a little happiness and regular routine. Dylan needs to feel normal.